Paul's dec sunset
Let the beauty we love be what we do -Rumi
  • Ten Tips for Handling Holiday Stress
  • How about my DVD for a Holiday Gift?
  • Another Year Ending - New Era Beginning

  • When the going gets rough, read poetry
    My favorite way to start the day - with poetry
    December 2008

    The things that matter most in our lives are not fantastic or grand. They are moments when we touch one another, when we are there in the most attentive or caring way. This simple and profound intimacy is the love that we all long for."
    - Jack Kornfield from A Path with Heart

    "Stop yourself whenever you think you know the end of the story and wait in the uncertainty.  The answers are there waiting for a break in the fear-created fog."
    -Ann O'Shaughnessy

    "If you can keep your head when all about you are losing theirs and blaming it on you; If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you, but make allowance for their doubting too"
    - Rudyard Kipling from Poem "If"

    "When most people are euphoric...I start to panic.   And when most people are panicking, I am euphoric."
    - Warren Buffet

    "Tough times never last, tough people do."
    - Dr. Robert Schuller

    You do not have to be good. You do not have to walk on your knees for a hundred miles through the desert, repenting. You only have to let the soft animal of your body love what it loves. Tell me about despair, yours, and I will tell you mine. Meanwhile the world goes on. Meanwhile the sun and the clear pebbles of the rain are moving across the landscapes, over the prairies and the deep trees, the mountains and the rivers. Meanwhile the wild geese, high in the clean blue air, are heading home again. Whoever you are, no matter how lonely, the world offers itself to your imagination, calls to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting -- over and over announcing your place in the family of things.
    Mary Oliver

    It's December again and another year is ending. Whatever has transpired in your life this year, both good and bad, it is now time to lay it to rest and say "thank you" and "goodbye".

    It's "Winter" in northern California. I've pulled out my wool sweaters, rain boots and long underwear. Winter comes late here and doesn't last long, so we must cherish the couple months we have.

    I grew up in the Midwest where winters were too long and dark.

    I've always thought it odd that at this time of year when I am inclined toward "introspection", it's the season to attend parties, celebrations and social events. I strive to honor that part of me that wants to go within, that wants to hibernate.



    Ten Tips for Handling Holiday Stress

    Only do the important stuff. Focus on what really matters to you and your family, if you have one. Often we allow our time to be swallowed up by things that are not valuable to us simply because of others expectations. It's not selfish to honor yourself and your feelings at this time of year. If you are not true to yourself, who will be?

    If you share your holidays with family members, have each family member make a list of all the activities that are important to them. Ask each member to rate them on a scale from 1 (very important) to 3 (unimportant). Compile your list of activities trying to accommodate everybody's # 1 and # 2 choices.

    Send email greetings rather than holiday cards. It's quicker and faster. If you don't have a computer, send cards that are homemade or photos or Christmas letters which often mean more to people than a card with a signature. Or don't participate in the Holiday greeting card custom if it is not #1 or #2 on your list.
    I often send greetings after the New Year when I feel less rushed and can be more creative about what I send.

    Streamline Gift Buying. Many families will be doing that this year with the current state of the economy. Keep shopping simple by buying everyone the same thing. Gift certificates are great. Use festive gift bags to avoid wrapping. Give festive candles as gifts to hosts.

    Simplify your life. Defer nonessential activities, like the dentist or the oil change until after the Holidays. When you cook, double the recipe and freeze the extras for a busy night.

    Set dates for de-cluttering. Set one day aside to clean and de-clutter. Give everyone in the family a large garbage bag and have them deposit unwanted or unneeded things into the bags. Label the bags and put them in the garage. Retrieve the bags after the Holidays are over.

    Get Moving. Extra workouts are a great de-stressor during the Holidays. If you don't have time for a work-out, make time, or write you worries down on paper to get them out of your head.

    INCREASE YOUR SELF-CARE DURING THE HOLIDAYS.
    FORGET ABOUT PERFECTION - AIM FOR FUN AND TOGETHERNESS


    How about my DVD for a Holiday Gift?


    C E L E B R A T I O N

    "The Joy on the Other Side of Grief"

    This DVD is the culmination of years of healing from the loss of my husband. It's a tribute to the power of the grieving process.
    The Joy on the Other Side of Grief gives permission to explore your own personal loss, whether recent or in the past.

    The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain. The Prophet Kahlil Gibran

    This DVD is taken from a talk I gave at Hospice of Petaluma on Feb. 13, 2008. Share this powerful DVD with your friends and family.

    For more information about working with Pauline as your grief coach or hiring her to speak at your conference, visit www.gutsycoaching.com.

    To order a copy of this DVD visit www.griefdenied.com or www.gutsycoaching.com or call Pauline at 707-578-4226.

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    Nina Arbour, Hospice Volunteer Coordinator at Hospice of Petaluma, comments regarding the evening: "What a beautifully tender, poignant and soulful evening. Thank you for sharing so exquisitely with all of us."


    Another Year Ending - New Era Beginning
    The Audacity of Hope

    2008 is near it's end. Ever notice how fast time goes - especially as you get older. Seems like we just started this year and now it's time to wind things down and close the books on another year.

    May you and yours experience a Peaceful Holiday Season.

    About Us
    Claim Your Life Now is committed to empowering people to live a life based on their deepest passions and values. What needs to be claimed in your life? Call Pauline at (707) 578-4226.

    For information about her coaching, visit www.gutsycoaching.com or to purchase her book, Grief Denied, A Vietnam Widow's Story visit www.griefdenied.com