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  • Only by taking a risk can we receive a treasure.
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  • Endorsements for Grief Denied A Vietnam Widow's Story

    • Write Your Own Declaration of Independence
    Where do you begin?
    Happy Independence Day

    Have you ever thought of writing your own personal Declaration of Independence? Take some time and imagine what you want to be free of?

    You may want to break free of Gremlins, grudges, regrets and resentments, addictions, compulsions, negative thinking, and procrastination..... free of self-limiting thoughts, people, places and things that don't call forth your best self. I challenge you to imagine what you'd like to declare yourself free of this month and write your personal declaration of independence. Then read it every day with conviction and expect results. Send it to me. I'm curious.

    Richard Carson's book, Taming Your Gremlin - A Surprisingly Simple Method of Getting Out of Your Own Way will go along way toward understanding the Self Saboteur (Gremlin) that lives inside your head. The first task is to identify the Gremlin, give it a name and write about it.

    Rick Carson simply defines the Gremlin as "the narrator in your head. This Gremlin tells you who and how you are, he defines and interprets your every experience. He wants you to accept his interpretations as reality and his goal, from moment to moment, day to day, is to squelch the natural, vibrant you within. He wants you to feel bad and will go to great length of do so. He is intent on making you miserable.

    The first step in taming your gremlin is to simply notice. By naming your Gremlin and bringing it out of the shadow, it loses its power to dominate your life. Notice the conversation that's continually going on in your head. Ask yourself if it's true? Most often, it's not.

    Notice other options. What could the conversation in your head be instead of the Gremlin's? Don't judge, condemn or criticize the gremlin. Just notice its conversation and choose differently. Do this over and over again until you are in control of those thoughts and the gremlin has to go find a new job elsewhere.

    The bigger your dreams and the bigger your vision, the larger the Gremlin seems to be. I have a fierce Gremlin and I've tamed it quite a bit in the 6 years that I've been coaching and being coached.

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    Coaching and Codependence

    Before I knew what Life Coaching was all about, I thought I was a natural-born coach. However, I had to shed the skin of "co-dependence" and "advice-giving" in order to become a good coach. I had to learn that my clients ARE creative, resourceful and whole. I had to learn to ask the powerful questions that would have them look within for the answers instead of expecting me to give them the answers.

    Much of what we learn in our culture is to be problem-solvers and advice-givers. That's not what coaching is about.

    Some people come to coaching looking for a "magic bullet". Those clients don't last long. They think the coach carries some kind of magic that will automatically transform their life in a short time. THAT'S NOT HOW IT WORKS.

    Coaches have a huge toolbox full of tools but they can't do the work for you. It's up to you to do it.

    People are more likely to take action and achieve results if they come up with the next right action to take. This is done with the assistance of the coach who asks the difficult questions. Your friends can't ask you those questions. it's not their job. Therefore, they can't coach you. That's why coaches get paid what they do. It takes audacity to ask the hard questions.

    Sometimes the intention to stay the same is greater than the intention to change. If that's the case, no amount of coaching in the world will change the situation. Perhaps people have not hit their bottom yet. They have not been humbled enough to ask for help.

    People come to coaching when they sense that things could be different and are willing to seek the support of a powerful ally - someone who is completely dedicated to their agenda and what they want to accomplish. With that combination, success is inevitable.

    Lexigreen Only by taking a risk can we receive a treasure.

    The Hero's Journey begins with our search for identity. Sometimes that occurs when we leave home for college, work, travel or to get married. Sometimes it may be a mid-life divorce, a return to work or school, a career change, or when we are faced with an empty nest. Or it may come when one realizes that they have no sense of self that they can call their own.

    It's human instinct to reach for the familiar, but the soul is here for experience, not security. A life without risk, loss, death, and pain is hardly vitalized. The more we resist the call to adventure, the more we fate ourselves to suffering of the worst kind. In such cases, the universe will often deliver increasingly drastic events until we finally give up the ego's hold on our soul's schedule and allow the next chapter of our purpose - our Destiny- to unfold.
    Transforming Fate into Destiny by Robert Ohotto

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    Check out my new YouTube Video.

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    Blessings till we meet again
    Pauline Laurent
    Certified Professional Life Coach
    Living Successfully One Day At a Time

    book cover Endorsements for Grief Denied A Vietnam Widow's Story

    I have seldom been so gripped by a book. What you have gone through is remarkable and rather unforgettable. Thank you so much for your book. What a gift. Eva Martin

    I am so taken by your book it's hard to put it down. Every sentence is so clean and substantial. It's almost shocking that you understand yourself so well. Your story quite touches me. Bob Martin

    To order Grief Denied A Vietnam Widow's Story visit www.griefdenied.com

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